Girls' Self Esteem

By Mary R. Baur


Girls are prone to low self esteem during their teenage years and this often causes them a lot of stress. It can be hard for a young girl to tackle her self esteem issues as it involves such a deep inner sense of poor self worth. However it is much easier for them to think in terms of stress relief and relaxing - which often leads to a change of self perception as a by-product!

It is always best to come up with your own personal stress relief routine as everyone is so individual in what works and what they like. However there are a few good places for most people to start.Understanding - The first step in personal stress relief is to know what stress really is and how it can affect your life. Try to take some time off to reflect on what situations in your life stress you out. You can start a diary and through writing down the daily events that get you going. This is particularly good for many teenage girls as they like the private journaling. Of course talking with a close friend or a family member about any issues is also a great way to deal with it.

Do give in to Social Pressure - A very female specific issue in regards to self esteem is the massive social pressure that is placed on us in our culture. If you look at the TV, the news, movies, advertisements, magazines, there is a very similar pattern that is telling us that we must have a small butt and firm boobs or else we are unattractive. This whole social misunderstanding is so fundamentally wrong that I could write a whole book on it!

The bottom line and the best advice I can give you about it is that know that true confidence and self esteem comes from inside and does not come from being eye candy which will disappear once we all reach a certain age. The trick is to realize looks are not everything.Self-Esteem Teenage Girls was created by teenagers for teenagers. We know how hard it is to be a teenager so our hope is to give back and to let you know that you are not alone and that you are beautiful no matter what!

Whilst self esteem activities for girls may conjure up ideas of getting makeovers and new hair-do's I'm going to try and steer away from that sort of thing as I've found that this is not really self esteem building, but a very shallow way that gives you fake confidence and is no real help in the end. I'm not against dressing up and looking good (c'mon, every girl loves to look good) but it cannot be your source of confidence and self esteem in life as it is too variable, inconsistent and circumstantial.

How absurd!I held onto a negative response to women for so long and didn't even realize because of my 'learned' responses in the past, every relationship I had up until that moment was ruined before it even began! This type of problem happens with both men and women. Whether abuse, shyness or fall-outs. If you are in a situation like this or if you ever run into this sort of problem, REALIZE, people are people just like you are and you cant judge a book by its cover. We are all born into this world and we'll all go out the same way! Just because the person you was with before treated you like dirt doesn't mean all men/women are the same.

Have some humanism!! Stop blaming women and men just because you haven't been able to get over your own problems surrounding new/old relationships! Instead, take a step back and recognise the truth about whats really going on. Every human being in this world is just living their lives the best way they know how.

Don't blame, judge or put yourself or anyone else down just because they are trying to play the cards they were dealt. Some people are prettier, some people are more aggressive, some people are shy and some people are more poor, but we all deal with life and our everyday problems the best ways know we can.

The masks of the "over achiever", "workaholic", "cleanaholic", "committeeaholic", "schoolclubaholic" etc. are all very similar. These are the people who over commit and over involve themselves in things because the busier they are with their time, the less time they have to spend with themselves alone. These mask wearers hide behind their busyness to keep others focusing on their hard work and involvement in activities rather than on the deficiencies that lies within themselves. They may be trying to prove to everyone that they are worthy and can actually be someone that others perceive as important or smart. In their attempts to undo the wrongs of their past, they oftentimes work themselves into a state of an emotional breakdown. It is hard to wear the "everyone can count on me" mask and be all things to all people.

Acquiring good and healthy Self esteem regarding new and current relationships is the main factor here. When your self esteem is good you are able to connect with yourself and others with respect and harmony.So after reading this article have you decided on the best self esteem building system? The best one I recommend and the one which I use to dramatically increase my self worth which works wonders is Higher Self Esteem and More.




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