There is one thing that runs through your mind when you have to deal with breaking up with your girlfriend, even if you don't want to admit to it. That thing is, you wonder if you are going to be able to ever find love again. That is a pretty universal fear and it is one that guys just don't talk about with other guys. Yet, if you don't acknowledge that you have that fear, it can severely limit what happens down the road. It can make you jump into a new relationship with the wrong woman a little bit too quickly and it can also make you feel like going back to an old girlfriend, all because you are afraid that you won't be able to find love again.
This is because of the amazing way our brain or more importantly our subconscious works. Our subconscious mind can not tell the difference between reality and perception, true life or make believe. Basically, what we focus on or ask ourselves manifests in our life because of this process. For example, have you ever driven yourself crazy trying to remember something that you knew you knew, given up on it and then woke with a jolt at 2 in the morning with the answer? This is because your subconscious never gave up and kept "going through your brains files" until it found the answer!
That doesn't always mean that it is going to be easy. It doesn't mean that you are going to just forget about her or that you are not going to have moments where you feel like you want her back in your life. All it means is that you have to keep your eyes on the reality that you can find someone else.
Do you dismiss men easily or get offended by them at times? If so, maybe you are being to hard on them and have a sense of entitlement. A sense of entitlement is the ugliest thing in the world to a man. Accept that boys will be boys and cut them some slack. Some are clueless, but that doesn't always mean they are jerks or bad men.
All the crazy, unattractive, messed up, still living with their parents at 35, no job, mean spirited, buck toothed, long working hours, stuttering people and worse that have found love, have done so because they loved themselves and opened themselves up fully to the power of being loved.This one magical state attracts love like you could never believe! Love is attracted to love. At our most primal level, we know in our hearts that once you are tuned in to your own ability to feel positively toward others, you will find someone special. This creates an intimate connection with the rest of the human race that allows and sometimes beckons others to gravitate toward us.
Anyone can find someone to fulfill them, someone they can call their soulmate. Its great that you want to find someone. Believe it or not but some of us in the world like to be alone. There are people who see friends and family as being weak. They think everyone around them only wants to hurt them, and so they live alone and fun by themselves.Some people just hate companionship, which is alright. Its their life and they can live it the way they want to. If you're someone asking "will I ever find love?" then the first thing you need to do that is to have the ability to take chances.Take a chance to speak to people, just start talking to people. Love is built through communication and with that said, how will you ever fall in love with someone if you don't start meeting people. Every time you walk outside there are people who you can talk to.
There are thousands of stories from which a person found the love of their life in a grocery store, at the gas station and believe it or not, people have found love in jail. The point is to take advantage of every opportunity in life.By opportunity I mean take a chance to talk to someone who you don't know. I'm not saying that you're going to fall in love with a bum or someone on the bus, but just start striking up conversations with people. Share your personality and your intelligence with the people you meet.
This is because of the amazing way our brain or more importantly our subconscious works. Our subconscious mind can not tell the difference between reality and perception, true life or make believe. Basically, what we focus on or ask ourselves manifests in our life because of this process. For example, have you ever driven yourself crazy trying to remember something that you knew you knew, given up on it and then woke with a jolt at 2 in the morning with the answer? This is because your subconscious never gave up and kept "going through your brains files" until it found the answer!
That doesn't always mean that it is going to be easy. It doesn't mean that you are going to just forget about her or that you are not going to have moments where you feel like you want her back in your life. All it means is that you have to keep your eyes on the reality that you can find someone else.
Do you dismiss men easily or get offended by them at times? If so, maybe you are being to hard on them and have a sense of entitlement. A sense of entitlement is the ugliest thing in the world to a man. Accept that boys will be boys and cut them some slack. Some are clueless, but that doesn't always mean they are jerks or bad men.
All the crazy, unattractive, messed up, still living with their parents at 35, no job, mean spirited, buck toothed, long working hours, stuttering people and worse that have found love, have done so because they loved themselves and opened themselves up fully to the power of being loved.This one magical state attracts love like you could never believe! Love is attracted to love. At our most primal level, we know in our hearts that once you are tuned in to your own ability to feel positively toward others, you will find someone special. This creates an intimate connection with the rest of the human race that allows and sometimes beckons others to gravitate toward us.
Anyone can find someone to fulfill them, someone they can call their soulmate. Its great that you want to find someone. Believe it or not but some of us in the world like to be alone. There are people who see friends and family as being weak. They think everyone around them only wants to hurt them, and so they live alone and fun by themselves.Some people just hate companionship, which is alright. Its their life and they can live it the way they want to. If you're someone asking "will I ever find love?" then the first thing you need to do that is to have the ability to take chances.Take a chance to speak to people, just start talking to people. Love is built through communication and with that said, how will you ever fall in love with someone if you don't start meeting people. Every time you walk outside there are people who you can talk to.
There are thousands of stories from which a person found the love of their life in a grocery store, at the gas station and believe it or not, people have found love in jail. The point is to take advantage of every opportunity in life.By opportunity I mean take a chance to talk to someone who you don't know. I'm not saying that you're going to fall in love with a bum or someone on the bus, but just start striking up conversations with people. Share your personality and your intelligence with the people you meet.
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