In this article I'm going to talk to you about how to quit porn.Some men don't ever watch porn.Most men have a relatively healthy relationship with porn, watching it every now and then but certainly not becoming obsessed with it and always preferring the 'real thing'.THE REAL THING being -- sex with a woman.However, there are some men (and since you're reading, this is probably you) who become a little too fond of porn and end up watching it every day, often more than once.[]
Porn addiction wasn't such a big problem until the internet came to place and skyrocketed pornography exposure and its accessibility. Now with over millions of websites available at your finger tips, it is becoming much easier to browse porn and for some, it's becoming a growing concern and more people are looking for ways to quit this addiction.For most, it start at an early age. 11 years old is usually the age for the average male being exposed for the first time to pornography. This rapidly becomes a habit for many and some don't feel the need to quit. As it starts to become more and more of a routine thing, they grow tired of the usual soft/mild porn and start to look into more explicit material.
As a result, this habit becomes an addiction and unfortunately, leaving it just became a big problem for many as they simply feel overwhelmed by the desire to feed their sexual needs with pornography hence the reason some are starting to look into ways to quit porn addiction.One needs to quit this unhealthy addiction because the negative effects are quite surprising. It can desensitize someone and give them a wrong perspective of how things really are. Someone who has a porn addiction can start to view people as sexual objects rather and human beings. This can lead to serious psychological problems and can also lower that person's self-esteem. They will find themselves using pornography every time instead of trying to get to know a person they might be interested in. It can also lead to the use of prostitutes, going out to strip clubs, doing one night stands and can also lead to break ups and divorces in couples.
For people wanting to quit porn addiction, they probably already tried but didn't succeed and here's why; most think they can simply do it by avoidance and willpower. Unfortunately it takes a lot more than that to quit porn addiction. It is something that needs to be treated to quit just like other addictions such as cigarettes, drinking problems etc.There is a lot of ways a person can find treatment to quit porn addiction. The best way of doing it however is by getting a good guide online. The reason for this is because most local services tend to be from religious centers which may not be the most preferred methods for many. Also, you cannot do it without showing your identity which is the major drawback for many.
Most people think when trying to quit porn that resisting will get you through. The reality is that you'll never make it really far by resisting against your urges and its only a matter of time before you'll crack and relapse. Even if you manage to resist for a decent amount of time, you must understand there are days that are much tougher than others and we will all eventually go through those days. That being said, you should look for a replacement instead.Confront And Replace.Another tip on how to quit pornography is to confront your urges and replace it. Instead of trying to avoid and resist, you need to acknowledge the fact that it's there and you need to treat it. The fact that you get a sudden urge is because your brain is in need of something to make you feel better. This is mostly due to triggers (which we will cover this later). Instead of resisting, find something to do that can replace your porn addiction.
Identify Your Triggers.There are triggers involved every time you feel the urge to watch porn. Something such as being bored, feeling lonely or seeing a hot person is a trigger that can give you the urge to watch porn. You need to identify them and plan accordingly.Plan Accordingly.Planning is another key element on how to quit pornography. You can have all the knowledge, tools and support but if you don't plan accordingly, you'll fail each and every time. You need to make plans and set goals. Things such as what you do when you'll be confronted with a trigger, daily sessions of self-improvement etc.
Most people that try to stop pornography addiction always go through the same phases and if you tried to stop in the past but failed, here's why. The most common cycle most people go through when trying to quit is first, by completely stopping and never go back, just like smoking. They will try to resist the temptations and avoid pornography as much as they can. As the time passes by, they start to feel the overwhelming temptation to watch porn and it comes to a point where they can no longer do anything without thinking about it. Finally, they simply give up and once they've committed the act, they feel ashamed and regret doing so but say to themselves that they'll do better next time. If you see yourself doing this, you need help.
In years gone by, things weren't as easy. You'd have to sneak out to the news stand and buy a top shelf magazine. Now, chances are whatever your tastes, it's available for free at the click of a mouse.OK, the first trigger is probably something you're unlikely to be able to quit whilst you're still breathing - we naturally think about sex a lot. At least partly to keep our species going.But there are probably other triggers that cause you to switch to a new tab on your browser - or even a different browser that you just use for porn, so that others don't see your guilty browsing secrets - and have a "quick look". Which turns into a not so quick look and before you know it, way too much time has passed.
The reason for this is very simple, your addiction comes from a deep mental imbalanced that may have been created when you were just a child, and unless you succeed in dismantling the issue from its very source, your brain, it will be there to stay. Yes, willpower will help for a while maybe, but your will fall back into your addictive habits sooner or later.Then, if willpower alone can't help you how can you leave porn addiction for good?There are several things that you will need to learn or relearn about yourself and about your relationships with others. Here are few things that you will need to do to be able to leave porn addiction behind.Discover your true self.Learn how to love yourself.Learn how to connect with others in a more meaningful way.Learn how to develop real relationships and true intimacy
It is essential that you learn who you truly are and love yourself from the inside. You might be surprise by such statement and think that you do, but you need to know that the fact that you are addicted to porn is proof enough that you have a self-esteem issue that needs to be re-established or even established in your mind for the first time.If your suffer from sexual addiction, you most likely have a problem to connect in a healthy and meaningful way with others, and learning how to do so is a great step towards leaving porn addiction behind. From there, you will finally be able to learn what true relationships and true intimacy is all about. However, all those important steps must be learned and followed in order to work.It is like a rehabilitation of the brain which controls all those behaviors, the good ones as well as the bad ones. With the right help you can rehabilitate your brain, and leave porn addiction behind once and for all. You can win this fight; it's not impossible. Others have succeeded and quite devastating sexual behaviors, but remember, your willpower alone might not be able to do the job on its own. A change in your brain connections will.
Porn addiction wasn't such a big problem until the internet came to place and skyrocketed pornography exposure and its accessibility. Now with over millions of websites available at your finger tips, it is becoming much easier to browse porn and for some, it's becoming a growing concern and more people are looking for ways to quit this addiction.For most, it start at an early age. 11 years old is usually the age for the average male being exposed for the first time to pornography. This rapidly becomes a habit for many and some don't feel the need to quit. As it starts to become more and more of a routine thing, they grow tired of the usual soft/mild porn and start to look into more explicit material.
As a result, this habit becomes an addiction and unfortunately, leaving it just became a big problem for many as they simply feel overwhelmed by the desire to feed their sexual needs with pornography hence the reason some are starting to look into ways to quit porn addiction.One needs to quit this unhealthy addiction because the negative effects are quite surprising. It can desensitize someone and give them a wrong perspective of how things really are. Someone who has a porn addiction can start to view people as sexual objects rather and human beings. This can lead to serious psychological problems and can also lower that person's self-esteem. They will find themselves using pornography every time instead of trying to get to know a person they might be interested in. It can also lead to the use of prostitutes, going out to strip clubs, doing one night stands and can also lead to break ups and divorces in couples.
For people wanting to quit porn addiction, they probably already tried but didn't succeed and here's why; most think they can simply do it by avoidance and willpower. Unfortunately it takes a lot more than that to quit porn addiction. It is something that needs to be treated to quit just like other addictions such as cigarettes, drinking problems etc.There is a lot of ways a person can find treatment to quit porn addiction. The best way of doing it however is by getting a good guide online. The reason for this is because most local services tend to be from religious centers which may not be the most preferred methods for many. Also, you cannot do it without showing your identity which is the major drawback for many.
Most people think when trying to quit porn that resisting will get you through. The reality is that you'll never make it really far by resisting against your urges and its only a matter of time before you'll crack and relapse. Even if you manage to resist for a decent amount of time, you must understand there are days that are much tougher than others and we will all eventually go through those days. That being said, you should look for a replacement instead.Confront And Replace.Another tip on how to quit pornography is to confront your urges and replace it. Instead of trying to avoid and resist, you need to acknowledge the fact that it's there and you need to treat it. The fact that you get a sudden urge is because your brain is in need of something to make you feel better. This is mostly due to triggers (which we will cover this later). Instead of resisting, find something to do that can replace your porn addiction.
Identify Your Triggers.There are triggers involved every time you feel the urge to watch porn. Something such as being bored, feeling lonely or seeing a hot person is a trigger that can give you the urge to watch porn. You need to identify them and plan accordingly.Plan Accordingly.Planning is another key element on how to quit pornography. You can have all the knowledge, tools and support but if you don't plan accordingly, you'll fail each and every time. You need to make plans and set goals. Things such as what you do when you'll be confronted with a trigger, daily sessions of self-improvement etc.
Most people that try to stop pornography addiction always go through the same phases and if you tried to stop in the past but failed, here's why. The most common cycle most people go through when trying to quit is first, by completely stopping and never go back, just like smoking. They will try to resist the temptations and avoid pornography as much as they can. As the time passes by, they start to feel the overwhelming temptation to watch porn and it comes to a point where they can no longer do anything without thinking about it. Finally, they simply give up and once they've committed the act, they feel ashamed and regret doing so but say to themselves that they'll do better next time. If you see yourself doing this, you need help.
In years gone by, things weren't as easy. You'd have to sneak out to the news stand and buy a top shelf magazine. Now, chances are whatever your tastes, it's available for free at the click of a mouse.OK, the first trigger is probably something you're unlikely to be able to quit whilst you're still breathing - we naturally think about sex a lot. At least partly to keep our species going.But there are probably other triggers that cause you to switch to a new tab on your browser - or even a different browser that you just use for porn, so that others don't see your guilty browsing secrets - and have a "quick look". Which turns into a not so quick look and before you know it, way too much time has passed.
The reason for this is very simple, your addiction comes from a deep mental imbalanced that may have been created when you were just a child, and unless you succeed in dismantling the issue from its very source, your brain, it will be there to stay. Yes, willpower will help for a while maybe, but your will fall back into your addictive habits sooner or later.Then, if willpower alone can't help you how can you leave porn addiction for good?There are several things that you will need to learn or relearn about yourself and about your relationships with others. Here are few things that you will need to do to be able to leave porn addiction behind.Discover your true self.Learn how to love yourself.Learn how to connect with others in a more meaningful way.Learn how to develop real relationships and true intimacy
It is essential that you learn who you truly are and love yourself from the inside. You might be surprise by such statement and think that you do, but you need to know that the fact that you are addicted to porn is proof enough that you have a self-esteem issue that needs to be re-established or even established in your mind for the first time.If your suffer from sexual addiction, you most likely have a problem to connect in a healthy and meaningful way with others, and learning how to do so is a great step towards leaving porn addiction behind. From there, you will finally be able to learn what true relationships and true intimacy is all about. However, all those important steps must be learned and followed in order to work.It is like a rehabilitation of the brain which controls all those behaviors, the good ones as well as the bad ones. With the right help you can rehabilitate your brain, and leave porn addiction behind once and for all. You can win this fight; it's not impossible. Others have succeeded and quite devastating sexual behaviors, but remember, your willpower alone might not be able to do the job on its own. A change in your brain connections will.
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