Love is one of the most complex things in the world. Whether you are a young person looking for love or an adult looking for the companionship that comes with it, you will always ask yourself the question: Is this the kind of love I deserve?
In many aspects of our lives, we give love and we get love. For some people, they think that we get the love that we think we deserve while for others love is a measure of pure fate and destiny. But what if it is not merely a measure of fate? What if you get the love you deserve by actually working for it and visualizing it in your life? What are the things that you should do to get that love? There are three ways and they are listed below.
First get in touch with your beliefs in fate and throw all this in the garbage. Yes! You are the logical type although deep down you still believe that you know that there is someone out there for you and is only a matter of time until you meet that special person. Stop pretending and accept there is no destiny but there is in fact a couple of choices mixed together that will lead you to where you belong.
Keep in mind that love seriously is not a matter involving destiny or exactly what the romantics would certainly call as serendipity. It is a matter of choice. See it and believe you can have it. Dream of your current ideal partner and you should surely get that love on the right person.
Second, accept that at one point or another, your past relationships were there for a reason. It taught you something and at one point you were happy. Do not try to set your standards on a higher plane compared to where you have placed your ex. Keep in mind that you loved that person in the past, accept those things that you loved them for and know that some things are just not worth fighting for.
Finally, visualize yourself when you are with that special person. What is going to happen when you meet that person? What are the things about you that you might change and that you are willing to change in order for you to always be one step nearer to your idea of that perfect person? What are the things that you must do to get on the circle from the person you just like? Make a checklist and prepare to answer each query.
Love is not about a person being able to accept you for who you are. At the start everything is beautiful but once you show the other side of you, changing yourself becomes inevitable. Now, if you are in a relationship already and there are also parts of that person that you want to change, ask yourself this: If I ask my partner to change things about him/her, are there things that I am willing to change for him/her? Will it all be worth it in the end?
Know your limitations when it comes to "trying to be better". At the end of the day, you should end up with someone who will not try to change you. You deserve to end up with someone who you are willing to change for because when the change comes from within, that is the only time that you can really appreciate what you have.
In many aspects of our lives, we give love and we get love. For some people, they think that we get the love that we think we deserve while for others love is a measure of pure fate and destiny. But what if it is not merely a measure of fate? What if you get the love you deserve by actually working for it and visualizing it in your life? What are the things that you should do to get that love? There are three ways and they are listed below.
First get in touch with your beliefs in fate and throw all this in the garbage. Yes! You are the logical type although deep down you still believe that you know that there is someone out there for you and is only a matter of time until you meet that special person. Stop pretending and accept there is no destiny but there is in fact a couple of choices mixed together that will lead you to where you belong.
Keep in mind that love seriously is not a matter involving destiny or exactly what the romantics would certainly call as serendipity. It is a matter of choice. See it and believe you can have it. Dream of your current ideal partner and you should surely get that love on the right person.
Second, accept that at one point or another, your past relationships were there for a reason. It taught you something and at one point you were happy. Do not try to set your standards on a higher plane compared to where you have placed your ex. Keep in mind that you loved that person in the past, accept those things that you loved them for and know that some things are just not worth fighting for.
Finally, visualize yourself when you are with that special person. What is going to happen when you meet that person? What are the things about you that you might change and that you are willing to change in order for you to always be one step nearer to your idea of that perfect person? What are the things that you must do to get on the circle from the person you just like? Make a checklist and prepare to answer each query.
Love is not about a person being able to accept you for who you are. At the start everything is beautiful but once you show the other side of you, changing yourself becomes inevitable. Now, if you are in a relationship already and there are also parts of that person that you want to change, ask yourself this: If I ask my partner to change things about him/her, are there things that I am willing to change for him/her? Will it all be worth it in the end?
Know your limitations when it comes to "trying to be better". At the end of the day, you should end up with someone who will not try to change you. You deserve to end up with someone who you are willing to change for because when the change comes from within, that is the only time that you can really appreciate what you have.
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