How To Make Your Confidence Soar

By Lachlan Haynes


Attack!

Attacks on young people's intelligence and learning ability have been proven to have a profoundly negative and long-lasting impact that can often last for that person's entire life. Comments such as 'you're wrong', 'you're stupid', 'you're dumb' or 'you're never going to achieve anything' can shatter self-belief and can significantly impact the way a person views themselves - particularly when delivered at a young age. The major problem with this is that a person's self-confidence is directly related to the attitude they apply to their education (and their 'learning' in general). So when a negative comment is directed to a young person about their ability to learn and understand things, it can still be affecting the attitude they have to their schooling in high school, college and for their entire adult life.

The reason this question is very important is because attacks like this on young people have been shown to have a profoundly negative and long-lasting impact that in some cases can even last for the person's entire life! Whilst some of us may think 'come on, they were probably just teasing!' or 'why would you take it so seriously?' comments like this can shatter self-belief and can significantly impact the way a person views themselves - particularly when delivered at a young age. The major problem with this is that a person's self-confidence is directly related to the attitude they apply to their education (and their 'learning' in general). So when a negative comment is directed to a young person about their ability to learn and understand things, it can still be affecting the attitude they have about their schooling in high school, college and their adult life.

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Where's Your Esteem?

Research shows there is a very strong link between students with high self-esteem and high achievement level. As expected, the opposite is also true, low self-esteem tends to result in a low achievement level. So then, self-esteem is obviously important! As such, let's ask ourselves the following questions: What kind of communications about your learning were you subjected to when you were young? Positive or negative? What kind of communications about your learning are you subjected to now? Positive or negative? Most importantly of all, what kind of communications do you subject yourself to? Positive or negative? What does the little voice in your head say? Does the voice support you, build you up, give you confidence, tell you you're one smart cookie? Or does the voice bring you down, tell you to stay in bed today, tell you you're worthless, and make negative thoughts swirl around inside your head? What can you take away from asking yourself these questions? Did you learn anything just by asking yourself these questions?

Give Me Solutions!

Here are some ideas on things you can do to make your ego soar. Soar like an eagle. Did you ever know that you're my hero? You are the wind beneath my wings. OK sorry it's getting weird. Let's get into it.

1. Let's get positive, positive, I want to get positive, let's get into positive (think theme song from 'Let's Get Physical'). Just be positive - about every single thing! Especially yourself. Talk yourself up. What's the point in being negative anyway - what does it solve? Does it make anything better? Or does it make it much worse? Try being positive about every single thing for one whole week. That's right - a week. You can do it. Try it. See what happens. Then do two weeks, three weeks and more. What do you think will happen? There is no doubt that if you do this and stick to it, your attitude will change dramatically. Make it happen.

2. Think of all the things you are good at and all the success you have created. If you're not sure ask your parents or your friends. Write these things down and keep adding to the list as you think of anything. Read the list every morning when you wake up. Do this for one week. Don't be weird about it, just write things that make you feel good and you know are true. Don't allow yourself to pretend that there is nothing good (some of you will try this old trick!)

3. Stop comparing yourself with other students. You have no idea what other people's lives are really like because you don't live their life. Things are never what they seem. So what are you comparing yourself to anyway? The only comparison worth making is that of comparing yourself today with yourself yesterday. Are you better today than you were yesterday? If so, how? Always strive to improve yourself each day and you will make huge gains over the course of a week, a month and a year.

4. Get involved in activities you actually enjoy. You will likely be successful in these activities which will boost your confidence. It doesn't matter whether you are good at art, marbles, butt-slapping or sport, just do things that make you feel good and things that get you excited (don't do anything that harms others please!)

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